acknowledging that the A is for asexual/aromantic because as allies you support the queer community but you are not a part of it
going out and participating in real world events/issues (if you can) instead of liking that fb post that says “yay homosexuals!!! whoo!!!!!”
when a queer person says you’re making them feel unsafe, stop, apologize, and stop that thing you were doing that made them feel unsafe
acknowledging that cis and heterosexual are not defaults
not being a shitty person really. if you’re racist or sexist or classist or any sort of toxic, oppressive person, guess what, you can’t be a good ally.
Things That Will Make You An UNCOOL Ally:
"ugh, cis(het) people" "what?? WHAT?? how dare U, insult ME, a CIS(HET) person" (pls go read this post and then get back to me)
speaking over queer folk when queer folk are talking about queer issues. sometimes, their discussion just isn’t your place to be
"i don’t care about gay marriage!! i don’t mind gay ppl!!! i hire gay ppl!!!! i have gay friends!!!!" this is saying basically that you’re giving us, a lower group, a privilege that you, the higher group, are so graciously giving to us (not to mention completely forgetting the other folk in the queer spectrum)
using slurs. don’t do that. ever. your gay friend said you could? nope. don’t care. don’t do that.
misgendering someone b/c you’re mad at them or don’t think their identity is valid, i don’t give a shit honestly if you think someone’s identity is “”real”” or not (which is shitty to begin with), using the correct pronouns won’t hurt you but misgendering someone definitely will. read this
saying you’re not homophobic/transphobic/etc doesn’t magically mean you’re not
treating all queer folk like they’re some kind of perfect saint untouchable power race or somethin to jack off to because let me tell you about queer fetishization
But now I’m told that this is life and pain is just a simple compromise, so we can get what we want out of it. Would someone care to classify? All broken hearts and twisted minds, so I can find someone to rely on.
Him: I don’t date black women. It’s just a preference.
Me: Based on what?
Him: Nothing, it’s just how I feel.
Me: Impossible, deliberate aversions come from somewhere.
Him: Its just a preference, that’s all.
Me: No, a preference is preferring broccoli to asparagus. You can say that because asparagus will always taste the same, even when prepared differently.
Me: And we’re not always the same at all. There are hundreds of millions of us and we’re each completely different from the next. If an employer said not hiring Black people was a preference would you agree?